I am always hearing how my home should be my sanctuary. I stopped to think about what that means.
It’s sacred. That means nothing profane can go on. That wouldn’t do, would it? No sloth, no lust…no fun!
It’s for relaxation. This sounds like a slippery slope to me. If you are supposed to relax at home, that means you shouldn’t have to do dishes or scrub toilets, right? I would not be able to relax in a rapidly decaying house!
Our homes have to play a bunch of roles for us. I’ve reached the conclusion that most people fall into one of five categories. Their homes are:
A spa. The house is geared toward relaxation. A priority was placed on a luxurious master bedroom and bathroom, maybe an upgraded bath and shower. For some, there’s a cozy den with a fireplace, rather than (or in addition to) a room full of video games. The spa concept might extend to a patio, deck, sun room, or hot tub. The inhabitants of this house deserve pampering! The idea is to “de-stress” from what happens outside.
A command centre. The house is geared toward sharing information and keeping everyone organized. Each person gets washed, dressed, fed and packed off to the right places at the right times! This implies the existence of a commander. Someone is probably taking on this role. There will be a central area, usually the kitchen, where everyone checks in and sorts themselves out. The idea is that everyone is prepared to launch out from Command Central!
A growing place. The house is used to nurture and develop its inhabitants 24/7. This house isn’t empty 8 or 10 hours a day! It could be a home schooling family, a group home, a halfway house, or someone looking after an aging parent. The rooms, possessions and people are dedicated to caregiving. The idea is that someone here is the focus of the home’s attention, and their needs will be met.
A work space. The house is divided into zones for different jobs and hobbies. The householders go there to find and use the materials they need: the home office, the home gym, the sewing room, the art studio, the wood working shop, the potting shed. Each person putters around on the activities they like, and re-groups for meals and bedtime. The idea is that everyone finds their own bliss and gives each other space.
A crash pad. The house…houses you. Life is lived elsewhere. Home is for sleeping and storage. The idea is that you need a fixed address, but everything else is negotiable.
I bet you can guess which one I have.
Which kind of home do you have? Which kind do you want?