Much thought has ensued since my last goal setting post. I decided that a Life Analysis is in order. Am I having a midlife crisis? No, just an annual review!
Here is my score card:
Do I like having a live-in, exclusive, legally-recognized partner?
Yes! Works for me.
Do I like my choice of partner?
Yes. Love him lots!
Do we spend enough time (or quality time) together?
Do we share chores well?
Do we spend an appropriate amount of time with our families?
Needs more thought to decide what works best.
Am I being the kind of parent my (21 year old) child needs right now?
I think so?
We are separated by 1800 km (1100 miles) so it’s a challenge.
Things to keep in mind?
Will want to plan an extra visit at the end of 2015 if Link has top surgery.
Things to keep in mind?
Look for challenges, keep current, don’t get too comfortable, there is always the possibility of being transferred within the library system to another position or location.
Home (House and Yard/Garden)
Still like being a homeowner?
Yes, enjoy it, willingly do the work, it’s affordable, don’t need hired help.
Things to keep in mind?
14 years to retirement, lots of time to downsize, but no need to build up piles of new clutter! Need to think about value and use of any home improvements during this time.
Need a car?
Yes. There will never be a time when Rom and I will both live, work, shop and have all our activities in the same neighbourhood. Our city is sprawling and there isn’t a great enough population to have services duplicated in every neighbourhood. Nor is there a good enough tax base to have an excellent public transit system. So we can only be mindful and reduce our car use.
Do we need two cars?
No. We no longer need two cars since I walk to work and Rom takes the bus. We have minimized our driving and will go down to one car when it works best economically.
Like having them?
I love our cats and can’t imagine a home without them. They are 7 years old. I have just realized that they will be my last cats. They will probably live until I retire. And then I will choose not to have new cats or kittens when I am 65 because we will want to be open to life changes (where to live, etc.)
Rom’s family have always owned corgis. We have decided not to own a dog while we both work all day. But in 15 years’ time, Rom’s dream may come true and he can be home with a pup! So we will keep that in mind for any future home and travel decisions.
We will continue to visit Sussex UK and Toronto CAN annually or better as long as we have relatives in each place. That takes care of most of our travel budget.
We will add side trips from those locations in order to spread our wings a bit. That being said, since Rom and I only have 3-5 weeks’ annual vacation time, we crave time at home, too, and need to use some vacation time for home maintenance. So additional travel is not at the top of our priority list.
As you see, health is #8 on my list so clearly it is something I am not worried much about. I am more concerned about being a caregiver for others (see Parenting, above, or being available if my parents need any help, which they usually don’t these days).
Resuming my former good health habits which have been rather lax since September!
In 2014 I started an aggressive 15-year pre-retirement savings plan and met my goal for Year 1. If there are no unexpected financial setbacks – only 14 years to go, LOL! I also reviewed my investments and may start a small sandbox/play money investment strategy next year (experimenting with a low amount of money in somewhat riskier investments).
Activity Level and Well Being
I don’t want to be OK. I want to be Really Well!
I like the feeling of being vibrantly full of life that I get from walking to and from work, skating, and roller skating. I would like to feel physical excellence more often! I want to build skills and feel successful doing new things and meeting new fitness goals. Failing at a couple of well-intentioned new activities would be fine too!
Culture, Community and Celebrations
What do I want to do? What do I not want to do?
I miss having time for creativity, whether it is dabbling with paper crafts or writing a poem or adapting a recipe.
I want my schedule to be open enough to meet a friend for lunch or drop in to see my parents for coffee without having to plan it a week ahead.
So it is clear what I don’t want, and that is to have all of my free time hemmed in with fixed commitments, like groups and classes and committee meetings.
I will need to balance this with doing work for some causes that are meaningful to me, but in a way that works better for all concerned than my current over-committed situation.
So that is my 2014 Life Analysis. The goals should ensue, right? There will need to be a part 3 to this series!
What categories would you add if you were reviewing your life right now?